When you saw the title, I’m sure some of you thought, wait for what???? Yes, you read it right!! I have learned there are three answers God will give to a prayer, “yes” which we all love to hear, God saying yes to something we have been praying for is awesome!! Then there is “not yet,” it’s not a yes so we are a little disappointed, but we can deal with it for the most part we just have to wait a little while. Then there is the dreaded “NO”! Clutch your pearls and get a fan, yes there are times when God will say no to a prayer. When He does, for some it can be the hardest thing in the world to hear. Why would God tell me no, doesn’t He want me to be happy, to live a great life. God would never close a door in my life to something that I asked for or need.
I recently had this happen in my life, and it felt like my world had fallen apart. It’s not the first time God has said no to something I desired or wanted, but it was to things I knew in my heart weren’t for me. So with those things, I was hurt a little but was able to move on from them. However, when God said no to this, I honestly didn’t understand it. It wasn’t something I just wanted or something bad for me; it was something I needed to live. I prayed earnestly for God to work the situation out in my favor because it didn’t affect just me, it was affecting others as well, but He had other plans. When He didn’t answer my prayer the way I wanted, and the thing I needed was taken from me, I felt so defeated. So saying I was heartbroken is putting it lightly, my faith had been shaken.
I will be honest and say, it has been hard to have a vision for my life or know what to even hope/pray for because I don’t know how God is going to answer my prayer. I guess you can say this experience jaded me, I thought what I was praying for was in God’s will. I know things could’ve gone a lot worse and I am grateful they didn’t. However, things still aren’t how I would like for them to be. But being in this place is teaching me now more than ever that when I say “not my will Lord but Yours” be ready for what that could mean. This is not to scare anyone and think God is going to allow something bad to happen to you just because. He isn’t some scary being in the sky just waiting to punish us.
If anything it’s more about really learning to trust God more especially in the face of a “no.” God is sovereign, and He knows our end from our beginning. He created us so He knows what we can and can’t handle, what will or won’t be good for us, He knows the best path for our life. Yes, that sometimes means that the path may be hard but, He promises us that He has good plans for us. Those plans are “to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future” Jeremiah 29:11.
You might be saying; tell that to someone that just lost a spouse/child or a spouse that prayed for a marriage to be restored, but it wasn’t. Or someone that needed their job because as the sole provider they had a family to support but got laid off anyway. Or someone that loses their home/cars everything. Some through no fault of their own they have had to suffer. I can honestly say I don’t know. There are some things we face that we may never know the reason for. But God is a restorer, and He can restore some of the things we have lost. Even with the things that can’t physically be restored, we can use our testing as a testimony to help someone. Just as I have and am going through now. Somethings can’t be restored physically, but I can share how God is keeping, comforting, providing for, sustaining me while I am going through in this hard season. His love carries me when there are days I want to give up, because it’s too hard. His peace and joy comfort me those days and nights I cry until I have no more tears.
I believe God can turn tragedy into triumph; He can heal broken hearts and “give beauty for ashes, oil of joy for mourning, the garment of praise for the spirit of heaviness….” Isaiah 61:3 In the darkest moments of life when God says no or when He allows the most unimaginable thing to happen, we can still trust Him and His sovereignty. We have to be like Job and say “though he slay me yet will I trust Him.” Job 13:15 As cliche as that may sound and yes it’s better said than done, but that’s how we have to be. God also said “…In the world ye shall have tribulation: but be of good cheer; I have overcome the world.” John 16:33. God was letting us know yes you will suffer and have tribulation in this world. We will face things we don’t understand; we weren’t prepared for, no matter how righteous we think we are living. But ,He has overcome every situation or circumstance we will ever face, and if He has then as His children, we have too. So be of good cheer, the God that allows the season of hardship is the same God that can bring something beautiful out of it for you.
Prayer: God I know that you are sovereign and You know my end from my beginning. I Thank You for always being there, loving and caring for me. So when things come my way I don’t understand, You allow me to go through a season of hardship or you say No to a prayer, help me to trust that You know what’s best for me. And in those moments when in my going through I can’t see my way and start to get weary, lead me to the place of rest, peace and comfort in You. In Jesus Name, Amen.